Changing Your Beliefs
One of the keys to my sobriety journey was changing the beliefs I had about myself. That I needed alcohol to socialise, or I needed it when I was bored or to relieve stress. I even had to challenge the beliefs I had about my relationships and the narrative I told myself about them. I used to tell myself "people don't actually like me, they just hang out with me because I bring free wine, or they are just using me".
Imagine if that is the view of most of the relationships I had. How could I ever feel comfortable around people if I was always paranoid about their intentions. So I had to challenge that narrative and change it. I can assure you that my connection with people in my life changed dramatically when I stopped thinking in that way!
That's just one example.
A belief is just a thought that is practised over and and over again. So changing them takes persistence and a lot of discipline.
Make some notes throughout the day and then journal in the evening or the following morning about the narratives and the beliefs that are a result of the narratives.
What are the beliefs you have about:
2. Your current circumstances
3. Your relationship (people you work with, friends, family)
4. Your future
5 Alcohol (what is it you believed or still do believe about alcohol)
Write down what you noticed. Have a look at the end of the week and see if the narrative was a theme. Question those beliefs and perhaps think about a more optimistic version of those beliefs and literally begin to change them.
Write down an old label you had about yourself. Then write down the new label you wish to live by. For example:
Old belief : I am a party person and I can only have fun with booze.
New belief : I am complete without alcohol and life is so much more fun without it and the baggage it gives me.
The new belief should become part of your I am's and your new mantra throughout the day.
Good luck and remember, changing beliefs takes work but it is possible!